Feel the fear and do it anyway

Friday, 10 March 2017

What are you afraid of? Leaving home, ending a relationship, interviews, losing a loved one, being alone, new responsibilities, failure, becoming a parent, growing old, asserting yourself, starting a new job, making decisions…

The fear of change is scary.

But how many times have you thought the worse was going to happen when you embraced change and it didn’t?

I know it may seem safer in your comfort zone but if you’re bored, unhappy or stressed in your current situation you need to learn how to feel the fear and do it anyway.

Many of us have overcome common fears.

Have you ever been scared to fly on an aeroplane – but you’ve stepped on board and put your trust in the pilot because you know you’ll get to an amazing destination at the end of it?

Have you found yourself asserting your self-confidence over your needle phobia, because feeling your fear and doing it anyway is better than the possible outcome of disease from not having your injections?

The once popular *now cringe worthy* saying YOLO could not be more true.

You only live once. 

Dare to dream and take the leap.

Fear is supposed to protect us from doing silly and irrational things, but mostly it just ends up holding us back from chasing our dreams and living the life we desire.

Learn to accept your feelings.

Don’t resist by trying not to feel it.

You’re only human.

Everyone feels fear.

Be curious and try to understand your fear.

Break it down and it will get smaller and more manageable.

A lot of fears arise from pre-empting and over thinking other people’s reactions to your actions.

‘If I do that everyone will think…’

If I say no when people will think I’m…’

Yes, seeking approval from others is absolutely fine but not when your health and happiness are compromised.

This is YOUR life. YOUR choices. YOUR mistakes to learn from.

Other people have their own lives to concentrate on too.

You would worry a lot less if you knew how rarely they were actually judging you.

And if they are, what does their ‘opinion’ matter to you?

The less you worry about what they think of you, the easier your fear becomes.

There really is no better time than NOW to feel the fear and do it anyway.

Take tiny baby steps then you’ve already started on your journey to a happy, healthier you.

When you don’t make the change yourself, sometimes life makes it for you and you can end up being dragged kicking and screaming still trying to hold on to them, this will be much worse.

Start by writing down your fears; even if it seems too obvious or insignificant just write it down.

Look at what’s not working in your life and tick them off one by one.

Which ones are real and which ones are based on that possibility of what if?

For instance, your worries of running out of money are more genuine than worrying about how thinking  people won’t like you when you stand up to present your ideas at work. The latter is your brain, creating your fear, trying to keep you in that comfort zone.

As you break down these fears even more, ask yourself: what’s the worst thing that could happen? How bad is it?

You want to go travelling but fear you’ll miss home too much? You could always just come home if it doesn’t work out. Follow your dreams. Give it a go rather than always thinking what could have been and live with regret.

You need to think of ways to reduce these dreads.

Many people feel anxious and even dizzy when thinking about ‘attempting to overcome their fears’.

Do you get a tightening ache in your stomach or chest and possibly increased breathing?

But is this not the same, if not similar feeling as when you’re excited?

Fear and excitement set off the same psychological reaction for most of us.

The most exciting things we ever do are a lot of the time the things we once feared the most.

Once you seek your window of opportunity, you need to push through your fears and resistance to embrace that much needed confidence boost and turn your nerves into adrenaline.

Yes there are things that we may fear that are out of our control - war, hunger, famine etc, but there are many that we can overcome now as we decide our own outcome of life and make our own decisions; we either walk away or embrace them.

Think about how amazing and enriched your life will be once you overcome your fear.

What are your top tips for feeling the fear and doing it anyway?

Have you overcome any fears recently, and how did you do it?

Love Luce x

If this post has inspired you to make a change I strongly recommend reading, if you haven’t already, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, available here.


  1. Love this so much, thank you for sharing :)

    Rachael xx.

    1. Thank you for your lovely words Rachael xx

  2. "A lot of fears arise from pre-empting and over thinking other people’s reactions to your actions."

    Love this line, it is so accurate. Great post Lucy! xx

    Coco Bella Blog

    1. It's so true!
      Thanks for commenting Demilade xx


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